Let’s stop pretending. Modern dating has become a circus of confused roles, weak men, and women who are fed up with it. Somewhere along the way, men were convinced that “equality” means they don’t have to step up anymore. That they can split the bill like roommates. That they can dodge responsibility and still call themselves men.
Let me be crystal clear: if you don’t pay for the first date, you’re not a man. You’re a boy dressed in adult clothes.
My Story: Poor But Never Feminized
When I came to Canada, I was broke. I cleaned toilets at night just to survive. I didn’t have money to go out on dates, but when I saw the women that I wanted to be with, I asked out and I paid. Always. Not because I had money (I didn’t), but because I had pride, and I wanted to let her know that I am a real man.
When I met my ex-wife, a few years later, I was a dance teacher. I didn’t have much money. Our first date was movies and coffee. Guess who paid? Me. Without hesitation. Because that’s what men do.
I’ve lived poor and I’ve lived comfortable—but in both cases, I was a man. Never once did I shove the bill across the table and say, “So… wanna split it?” That sentence has never left my mouth, and it never will.
Today’s Epidemic of Weak Men
Now, I look around at today’s dating culture, and what do I see? Grown men bragging online about “going Dutch.” Boys on TikTok whining about women “using them for free meals.” Guys crying that it’s “unfair” to pay.
Unfair? Please. What’s unfair is how feminized and spineless modern men have become. They’ve been brainwashed into thinking that being cheap is the same thing as being equal. Newsflash: it’s not.
When you don’t pay, you’re not signaling equality. You’re signaling weakness. You’re showing her that you’re not capable of providing even the smallest gesture of leadership or generosity.
And women can smell it.
“But What If She’s Using You?”
This is the loser’s battle cry. “She might just want a free dinner!”
Guess what? If the worst thing that happens is you spend $40 and share an hour with a woman, you still win. You got her time. You got her attention. And if you’re any good, you might get her interest.
Only boys whine about being “used.” Men don’t complain. Men provide.
If you’re terrified of being “taken advantage of” over a plate of pasta, you’re not ready to date. You’re ready to stay home, microwave Hot Pockets, and complain about women on Reddit.
Real Voices Agree
Don’t take my word for it. Listen to what others say:
- Charlie Kirk, political activist, says men must always pay.
- Link Lauren, TikTok creator, mocks guys who try to split the bill.
- Serena Kerrigan, actress and writer, is blunt: if a man doesn’t pay, he’s showing her who he really is—and it’s not good.
It’s not about tradition. It’s about masculinity.
The Brutal Truth
Men today are lost. They’ve been feminized by culture, softened by comfort, and stripped of the pride that comes with being providers. They think “splitting the bill” makes them modern. No—it makes them pathetic.
A woman doesn’t respect a man who fumbles with the check. She respects the man who takes out his credit card and pays for the meal.
So let me say it one last time: a man who doesn’t pay for the first date isn’t progressive, isn’t enlightened, isn’t clever—he’s weak. He’s feminized. He’s lost.
And women don’t want lost boys. They want men.
So step up, gentlemen. Pay the bill. Or stop calling yourself a man.
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